Community Guidelines

Last updated: April 17, 2026 · Effective: April 17, 2026

      The short version: PolyQuesting is a sex-positive, kink-friendly, consent-first space.
      You can be your full, authentic self here — and we expect you to extend that same respect to everyone else.
      We're here for connection, not cruelty.
    

1. Our Values

PolyQuesting was built for the polyamorous, ENM, and kink communities — people who have often been excluded, judged, or misunderstood elsewhere. This is your home base. We take that seriously.

Three values underpin everything here:

Consent — explicit, enthusiastic, and ongoing. It applies to your relationships and to how you engage with this platform.
Respect — for relationship styles, identities, kinks, and boundaries that differ from yours.
Authenticity — be who you are. Don't fake it, don't perform it, don't weaponize it.

2. Respectful Interaction

Do: Engage with curiosity and care. Disagree respectfully. Set and honor boundaries clearly. If someone says no — to a message, a quiz invite, a meetup — honor it.

Healthy community interaction means:

Treating other users with dignity, regardless of their relationship structure or kink profile
Asking before sending anything intimate or explicit — don't assume consent from a profile
Accepting "no" without pushback, negotiation, or follow-up messages
Acknowledging that people have different relationship models — hierarchical poly, RA, solo poly, swinging, and everything in between — and none is more valid than another
Being honest about who you are and what you're looking for

3. Consent Culture

Consent is core to this community — not just in the bedroom, but in how we interact here.

Ask before sharing explicit content in messages. The platform does not automate this check — you are responsible for it.
Respect blocks. If someone has blocked you, do not create another account to contact them. Do not contact their partners or metamours. Let it go.
Safewords exist for a reason. If someone invokes one in a game context or conversation, pause and check in. Don't push past expressed limits.
Negotiation is not the same as consent. If someone hasn't agreed, the answer is no.

4. What's Not Welcome Here

We're sex-positive — but that doesn't mean anything goes. These behaviors will result in moderation action:

Harassment

Repeated unwanted contact after being told to stop
Sending unsolicited sexual messages or images
Threatening, intimidating, or stalking another user — online or offline
Coordinating with others to target or harass a specific person

Hate Speech and Discrimination

Attacking users based on race, ethnicity, national origin, religion, gender, gender identity, sexual orientation, relationship style, disability, age, or body type
Posting content that dehumanizes people or promotes violence against any group
Mononormativity deployed as an attack ("poly people can't be trusted," "BDSM is abuse") — this is a safe space for relationship diversity

Doxxing and Privacy Violations

Sharing another person's real name, location, workplace, or identifying information without their consent
Outing someone's relationship style, sexual orientation, or kink identity to people in their offline life
Posting someone else's photos, messages, or quiz results without their permission

Non-Consensual Intimate Content

Posting sexual images or videos of another person without their explicit consent
Threatening to expose intimate content ("revenge porn")
Screenshotting and sharing private messages or quiz results from sessions

Impersonation

Creating a profile pretending to be another real person
Falsely claiming to be PolyQuesting staff or moderators
Using a misleading identity for deceptive purposes (e.g., fake age, fake relationship status)

Spam and Solicitation

Sending bulk, copy-pasted, or automated messages to multiple users
Promoting third-party services, apps, or platforms in messages or profiles
Running bots or automated scripts on the platform

5. Kink and BDSM Content — What's Allowed

PolyQuesting is explicitly kink-friendly. Discussion of BDSM dynamics, power exchange, kink negotiation, and related topics is welcome and encouraged — this is part of what we're here for.

What's allowed:

Open discussion of kink interests, BDSM dynamics, power exchange relationships, and fetishes — in profiles, messages, and consent agreements
Using kink-related quiz features and consent agreement tools to negotiate with partners
Sharing kink educational content, resources, or community knowledge
Discussing limits, safewords, aftercare, and negotiation practices

What's not allowed:

Sending unsolicited explicit or graphic content to users who haven't agreed to receive it
Posting public graphic sexual content (messages are private, profiles are not the place)
Using kink framing to coerce, manipulate, or pressure someone — a collar doesn't override consent
Presenting non-consent, abuse, or exploitation as kink — content that glorifies real harm
Any content involving minors in sexual or kink contexts — zero tolerance, immediate ban, law enforcement referral

On edge cases: If you're unsure whether something crosses the line, the test is: Did the other person explicitly agree to receive or engage with this? If not — don't send it.

6. Reporting

See something that violates these guidelines? Don't engage. Report it.

In-app: Use the report button on any profile, message, or content
Email: safety@polyquesting.polsia.app — for urgent safety issues, account compromises, or CSAM
DMCA / copyright: dmca@polyquesting.polsia.app

Reports are reviewed by real humans. We take safety seriously. We don't retaliate against good-faith reporters — and we don't investigate anonymous reports (we need context to act responsibly).

If you're in immediate danger, contact local emergency services. PolyQuesting is not equipped to respond to emergencies in real time.

7. Enforcement

We apply enforcement proportional to the severity of the violation, the history of the account, and the impact on the community. There is no fixed formula — we use judgment.

Action	When Applied
Warning	First-time or minor violations — borderline conduct, accidental misuse, low-harm infractions
Content removal	Removal of specific content that violates guidelines, without account action
Temporary suspension	Repeated violations after warnings, mid-severity conduct, cooling-off period for escalating behavior
Permanent ban	Severe violations (CSAM, non-consensual intimate images, credible threats, sustained harassment, evading previous bans)
Law enforcement referral	Any content involving child sexual exploitation, credible threats of physical harm, or other criminal matter

No notice required. For severe violations, we act first and notify after (or not at all). For lesser violations, we generally notify before acting.

No refunds for bans. Account termination for violations does not entitle you to a refund of any subscription fees paid. See our Payment Terms.

Appeals. If you believe a moderation action was made in error, email safety@polyquesting.polsia.app with "Appeal" in the subject line. We review appeals within 5 business days. Our decision on appeal is final.

8. Questions

Questions about these guidelines or a specific moderation decision:
📧 safety@polyquesting.polsia.app

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